Dominant or Passive partner?

  "It might sound cliché but opposites attract."

you might want to believe a passive partner attracts a dominant partner.   Its rare to see a dominant person attract another dominant.
Dominant partners are partners who try to have a sort of hold on everything , be it conversations or anything that involves two people. They simply need someone to accommodate their ego.
usually, they are never at a loss for words, often leaving the other partner overwhelmed, and giving them more power over their partner.  This Could easily lead to an unbalanced relationship.

The passive partner, on the other hand would rather prefer to be left alone for the usually have little to say, and might just move along. But soon enough they realise that they are gradually losing a say in the relationship.

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Older Men and Nine Lives

Do older men have nine lives?

 Is there a myth to it. I have been pondering on this lately.

 Older men are said to live a longer life if the have  intimate relationships with younger women, funny huh?.
This is becoming quite alarming because of the increasing rate it has become the norm. It is said that 2 in 5 cases are bound to occur at every point.

These men are not to be blamed entirely because it is the younger women who equally make themselves available and vulnerable to them,  so long as these older men are ready to provide for them and foot their bills.

Though it's not all women who found themselves having an affair with older men intended it to happen. Most of the women who have this experience were not aware of the mans' marital status due to the lies fed to her,  or were she was made to believe the man was at the verge of having a divorce,  being seperated , which of course are all lies.
In this case the younger woman believes she will eventually become the mans real lover or wife, not knowing she is at a loss of becoming the Other Woman or The side Chick.

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How Does Your Inner Fears And Insecurities Affect You?

      “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Fear has its way of paralyzing you. Most of the things we fear for never gets to happen. It only exist in our head. It's your own inner fears, and insecurities that are creating this illusion.

I was consumed with fear, I couldn't find myself. Being the confident type  it was so unusual of me. I was always active, and at the top of every activity.
I couldn't keep up with all the negative thoughts going through my head.
Applying for a job was what  stirred-up my fear. Having been called for an interview, and I couldn't confront it. All the self help books on preparing for an interview, didn't seem to help.
What if on getting there I was asked a difficult question?, what if I couldn't answer these questions?, what if my answers were not impressive enough?, what if I was rejected at the end?
I constantly had to ask myself.

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Short Story: "Anger"

  
"It is natural for the immature to harm others. Getting angry with them is like resenting a fire for burning." -Shantideva

Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

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Inspiration: Be Brave!

“Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for your convenience, not the callers. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Don’t major in minor things. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. Don’t spread yourself too thin.

Learn to say no politely and quickly.

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7 Awkward Things You do when You Have a Crush

You probably had or currently have a certainsomeone who you have ambiguous feelings for but won’t ever let him or her know about them, 

so instead you start doing things you do when you have a crush on someone, no matter how silly and irrational they may be. Don’t worry, we have all done it, but are just not willing to admit to it. I guess the infatuation just gets to us and we all end up doing the exact same things you do when you have a crush. 

1. Overanalyze Their Actions: 

You can’t really control the things you do when you have a crush on someone and sometimes it can drive us all insane. For example, the second you begin liking someone, you automatically start to read too much into their actions. You attempt to read their body language and search for any hidden messages whenever you have a conversation. And in the end you just give up, because with men you can never be too sure.

2. Act Different around Them:  

As much as you try to keep your cool when you are around them, your heart beats faster when they are close to you and sometimes all of the thinking in your head makes you act awkward. Plus, aside from that, you become more aware of your posture and overall appearance, so being around your crush is a lot of hard work.

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10 Reasons To Let Go of The Past

Whether its a bad memory,  a grudge, a bad relationship or a broken heart that can't mend, there’s always a time to let go.

1. Holding onto anything takes effort and that effort subtly overshadows your life. Think of the negative things you are holding onto as a huge dark cloud constantly looming over you and blocking the sunlight. There is no room for anything positive or bright in your life so take a deep breath and blow that dark shadow away.

2. Ever wondered why you never really accomplish as much as you should? It’s because you are hoarding bad memories and experiences and you are letting your past dictate your future. You will never find what you are seeking if you do not have the strength to let go and look at the world through new eyes.

3. The negative things in your life serve only one purpose and that purpose is to be a tool for knowledge. If you don’t let go of the negative things, you can never learn from them because you will always be blinding by baseline emotions. Don’t hinder your growth by holding onto these things.

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Think Big!

What do you think about most of the time? Your world is a mirror of your thoughts.
If your life isn’t going in the direction that you want it to, then something is wrong with your thought processes. If you change your thinking, you can change your world. Successful people think about what they want and how to get it. Those with the highest expectations are the winners in life. You are limited only by your ability to envision a better you.

You become what you think about! I call this the Formula For Success. If you want to improve in any way, you have to change your self concept.

You can be no bigger than your self image. If you have a poor self image, you are not going to get very far. Most of us have had our growth stunted by the negative influence of other people’s opinions. I’m here to tell you that someone else’s opinion of you doesn’t have to be your reality.

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Todays Inspiration!

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    The praying Woman!

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Short Story: The Evil You Do

The Evil You Do Remains With You:

        A woman baked chapatti for members of 

her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra chapatti on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the chapatti. 

Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day.

          Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and uttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”

 The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… 

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